书城外语那些温暖而美好的小事
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第20章 天涯比邻,相拥三千深情(1)

如果

如果所有的人都丧失理智,谴责你,你还能保持清醒;如果所有的人都怀疑你,你还能坚信自己,同时容忍他们的怀疑;如果你能耐心等待,而不感到厌倦,或者,即使被骗,也不要骗人,或者,即使被恨,也不要恨人,不要盲目乐观,不要夸夸其谈;如果你敢于追梦——而不让梦成为你的主宰;如果你乐于思考——而不仅靠想来达成目标;如果你获得成功或遭受挫折,同样地,把他们都看成骗子,如果你能忍受自己说过的事实,被欺诈者扭曲,去诱骗愚蠢的人,或者,看着倾注毕生心血的东西被毁坏,然后俯下身,用破烂不堪的工具来修复;如果你获得无数的胜利后,冒险使你从荣耀之颠跌落,失败后,从头再来,对于失败,不要有丝毫抱怨;如果你能强迫沉寂自己的心智、精力和体力,在别人都离去后,你仍能恒久坚守,永不放弃,即使当你的内心空无一物,只有意志力告诉自己:“坚持!”

如果你能同众人交谈,并保持你的美德,或者,与王者同行——也不远离众人;如果仇敌和好友都不加害于你;如果所有的人都依靠你,但谁也不苛求;如果你用六十秒的时间进行短跑,来填充那不可饶恕的一分钟——你就拥有了全世界,一切都属于你;而且——更重要的是——孩子,你会成为一个顶天立地的人。

IfIf you can keep your head when all about youare losing theirs and blaming it on you;If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,but make allowance for their doubting too;If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,or, being lied about, dont deal in lies,or, being hated, dont give way to hating,and yet dont look too good, nor talk too wise.

If you can dream-and not make dreams your master;If you can think-and not make thoughts your aim;If you can meet with triumph and disasterand treat those two impostors just the same;If you can bear to hear the truth youve spokentwistted by knaves to make a trap for fools,or watch the things you gave your life to broken,and stoop and build them up with wornout tools.

If you can make one heap of all your winningsand risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,and lose, and start again at your beginningsand never breathe a word about your loss;If you can force your heart and nerve and sinewto serve your turn long after they are gone,and so hold on when there is nothing in youexcept the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”;If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,or walk with Kings-nor lose the common touch;If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;If all men count with you, but none too much;If you can fill the unforgiving minutewith sixty second worth of distance run-Yours is the Earth and everything thats in it,and-which is more-youll be a Man my son!

直到遇到你才懂得怎么教学

这是多年前一个小学老师的故事。她就是汤普森夫人。开学第一天,她站在五年级教室的前面,对着孩子们撒了个谎。跟大部分老师一样,她看着学生说她同样地爱他们。可是,这绝不可能,因为窝在第一排的椅子里的,是一个小男孩,他叫特迪。

汤普森夫人之前就观察过特迪,她发现他和其他孩子相处得不是很好,他的衣服很乱,长期未洗澡的样子,而且,特迪会让人觉得不高兴。

在汤普森夫人授课的学校,学校要求老师查看每一个孩子过去的记录。她把特迪的记录放在最后才看。不过,看他的资料时,她大为惊讶。

特迪一年级的老师写的评语是:“特迪聪明、爱笑,作业写得很整洁,而且还懂礼貌。他给周围人带来了欢乐。”

他二年级的老师写的评语是:“特迪是一个优秀的学生,他的同学都很喜欢他,但他遇到麻烦了,他母亲患病并且到了晚期,他家里生活一定特别拮据。”

他三年级的老师写的评语是:“他母亲的去世严重打击了他。尽管他极力做好,可是他父亲对他的关心不足,若不采取一些措施,他很快就会被家庭生活所影响。”

特迪四年级的老师写的评语是:“特迪离群孤僻,对学习没有兴趣。他没有多少朋友,有时上课还睡觉。”

至此,汤普森夫人才意识到了问题,为此她觉得汗颜。当学生们送她圣诞礼物时,这种感觉更加强烈了,除了特迪的,其他人的礼物都用漂亮的丝带和彩纸包装着。而特迪的礼物包装显得很粗糙,包装纸是粗质的褐色,是从食品袋里找到的。

在一堆其他礼物中间,汤普森夫人特意打开了它。她看到里面有一个人造钻石手镯,其中一些石子已经遗失了,还有一瓶只剩下四分之一的香水。一些孩子笑了出来,她制止住这些孩子的笑声,惊喜地说这个镯子太漂亮了。她带上了它,还在手腕上洒了些香水。

那天放学后,特迪待了很久后才说:

“汤普森夫人,今天你身上的香味就跟我妈妈过去用的一样。”在孩子们都离开后,她哭了至少一个小时。

就在那天,她放弃了教阅读、写作和算术,开始关注孩子们。

汤普森夫人一直注意着特迪。和她在一块的时候,他的思维似乎活跃起来了。她的鼓励越多,他的反应就越快。这年年底的时候,特迪已经成为班里最聪慧的学生之一,尽管她曾撒谎说她会同样爱护所有的学生,但特迪成了她“最喜欢的学生”之一。

一年后,她在她门缝下发现一个来自特迪的短笺,特迪告诉她,她依然是他一生中遇到的最好的老师。

六年后,她收到来自特迪的另一张短笺。特迪说他以班级第二名的成绩从高中毕业了,她依旧是他一生中遇到的最好的老师。

四年过去了,她又收到一封信,信里说尽管常遇到一些挫折,他还会留在学校,坚持完成学业,这样不久他就会以最好的成绩从大学毕业了。他对汤普森夫人说,她依旧是他一生中最好的也是他最喜欢的老师。

四年多过去,他又写来了一封信,这次他说,在获得学士学位后,他决定继续深造,信里还说她依然是他遇到的最好的、最喜欢的老师。可是这时他的署名有一点点长了。署名写的是:医学博士西奥多·F·斯托勒。

故事并没有到此为止。

你看,那个春天还有另外一封信呢。特迪说他遇到了一位女孩,并且打算要结婚了。他解释说,几年前他父亲就去世了,他现在想知道汤普森夫人是否愿意出席,并坐在新郎母亲的位置上。

当然,汤普森夫人答应了。你猜怎么着?她戴着那个遗失了几颗石子的那个手镯,并且,她专门用了特迪上次和她过圣诞节时送给她的他妈妈以前用过的香水。

他们互相拥抱,特迪在汤普森夫人耳边小声说:

“汤普森夫人,谢谢你相信我,真的很感谢你让我觉得自己很重要,而且让我觉得我能够变得不一样。”

汤普森夫人满含泪水,也轻声对他说:“特迪,你全弄错了。是你让我懂得了我能够改变,直到遇到你我才懂得怎么教学。”

I Didnt Know How to Teach until I Met You

There is a story many years ago of an elementary teacher.

She was Mrs. Thompson. And as she stood in front of her 5thgrade class on the very first day of school she told the childrena lie. Like most teachers she looked at herstudents and said that she loved them all thesame. But that was impossible, because therein the front row, slumped in his seat, was alittle boy named Teddy.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy theyear before and noticed that he didnt playwell with the other children, that his clotheswere messy and that he constantly needed abath. And Teddy could be unpleasant.

At the school where Mrs. Thompsontaught, she was required to review eachchilds past records and she put Teddys offuntil last. However, when she reviewed hisfile, she was in for a surprise.

Teddys first grade teacher wrote,“Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh.

He does his work neatly and has goodmanners. He is a joy to be around.”

His second grade teacher wrote, “Teddyis an excellent student, well-liked by hisclassmates, but he is troubled because hismother has a terminal illness and life athome must be a struggle.”

His third grade teacher wrote, “Hismothers death has been hard on him. Hetries to do his best but his father doesntshow much interest and his home life willsoon affect him if some steps arent taken.”

Teddys fourth grade teacher wrote,“Teddy is withdrawn and doesnt showmuch interest in school. He doesnt havemany friends and sometimes sleeps in class.”

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized theproblem and she was ashamed of herself.

She felt even worse when her studentsbrought her Christmas presents, wrappedin beautiful ribbons and bright paper,except for Teddys. His present was clumsilywrapped in the heavy, brown paper thathe got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompsontook pains to open it in the middle of theother presents. Some of the children startedto laugh when she found a rhinestonebracelet with some of the stones missingand a bottle that was one quarter full ofperfume. She stifled the childrens laughterwhen she exclaimed how pretty the braceletwas, putting it on, and dabbing some of theperfume on her wrist.

Teddy stayed after school that day justlong enough to say, “Mrs. Thompson, todayyou smelled just like my Mom used to.” Afterthe children left she cried for at least anhour.

On that very day, she quit teachingreading, and writing, and arithmetic.

Instead, she began to teach children.

Mrs. Thompson paid particularattention to Teddy. As she worked with him,his mind seemed to come alive.