LONDON,September 22,O.S.1749.
DEAR BOY:If I had faith in philters and love potions,I should suspect that you had given Sir Charles Williams some,by the manner in which he speaks of you,not only to me,but to everybody else.I will not repeat to you what he says of the extent and correctness of your knowledge,as it might either make you vain,or persuade you that you had already enough of what nobody can have too much.You will easily imagine how many questions I asked,and how narrowly I sifted him upon your subject;he answered me,and I dare say with truth,just as I could have wished;till satisfied entirely with his accounts of your character and learning,I inquired into other matters,intrinsically indeed of less consequence,but still of great consequence to every man,and of more to you than to almost any man:I mean,your address,manners,and air.To these questions,the same truth which he had observed before,obliged him to give me much less satisfactory answers.And as he thought himself,in friendship both to you and me,obliged to tell me the disagreeable as well as the agreeable truths,upon the same principle I think myself obliged to repeat them to you.
He told me then,that in company you were frequently most PROVOKINGLYinattentive,absent;and distrait;that you came into a room,and presented yourself,very awkwardly;that at table you constantly threw down knives,forks,napkins,bread,etc.,and that you neglected your person and dress,to a degree unpardonable at any age,and much more so at yours.
These things,howsoever immaterial they may seem to people who do not know the world,and the nature of mankind,give me,who know them to be exceedingly material,very great concern.I have long distrusted you,and therefore frequently admonished you,upon these articles;and I tell you plainly,that I shall not be easy till I hear a very different account of them.I know no one thing more offensive to a company than that inattention and DISTRACTION.It is showing them the utmost contempt;and people never forgive contempt.No man is distrait with the man he fears,or the woman he loves;which is a proof that every man can get the better of that DISTRACTION,when he thinks it worth his while to do so;and,take my word for it,it is always worth his while.For my own part,I would rather be in company with a dead man,than with an absent one;for if the dead man gives me no pleasure;at least he shows me no contempt;whereas,the absent man,silently indeed,but very plainly,tells me that he does not think me worth his attention.
Besides,can an absent man make any observations upon the characters.