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第33章 成功是过程,而不是终点 (8)

尝试了,却没能如愿达到目标结果,就不是失败。只有当我们承认达不到,并放弃尝试时,才会出现失败。事实上,只有两种方式会导致失败:在达到真正想要的目标前,你放弃了;或者继续在错误的道路上前进,因为,你最初作出的选择是错误的,但你仍执拗地坚持。

举个例子,假设你开车去见一个朋友,但是地点并不熟悉。你走错了方向,迷路了。

在第一个失败的例子中,你发现自己迷失了方向,并试图改正路线。但是,你偏离得太远,因而不能一次性改正,回到正轨。所以,你要一次又一次地改正。三四次以后,你确信永远无法找到自己的路,于是,你放弃了,停下了车,这样你将永远无法到达目的地。

在第二种失败原则中,尽管你走错了方向,但是你必须坚持。因为作出一个新的选择,意味着你作出的最初选择让你迷失了方向,你失败了。所以,你坚持在错误的道路上,尽管知道它是错误的,知道错误有多严重,你仍然拒绝改变。

上文中提到的这两种假设听起来很荒谬,但是,在达到目标前就放弃或离开,或者坚持在已经发现错误的路线上走的人,在这个世界上还有很多。

你必须愿意改变你的路线,并且坚持改变,一次又一次地根据需要进行调整,去接近你的目标,这样才能确保成功。你是否能达到目标,取决于你认为自己终能成功的信念。这就又给我们带来了信心。

你对自己和自身能力的了解,以及懂得如何使它们产生更大的效用,会产生一种信念,让你坚持不懈地去尝试。在当今这个匆忙的世界,有时,我们忽略了认真去审视自己最有价值的资产——自身。只有自知和自我了解,才能让我们相信,自己拥有找到正确的解决方法和达到目的的能力。

不了解自己的人容易走弯路,他们的个人范畴模糊,精力不集中。深入而准确的自我评估,可以为我们实现目标导航。没有核心力量和明确的个人界限的引导,我们绝不可能成功,因为我们的目标是什么,或者应该怎么样,连我们自己都不清楚。

了解并尊重自己本质的人,才会开心快乐、精力集中、目标明确。他们有基本的工具尝试新事物,树立新目标,并持之以恒地去追求。这些人才会获得成功。他们成功是因为每一个目标的实现,都增强了他们对自己有能力成功的信心,使他们更努力地去尝试更多。充分的自信会产生好的结果,有充分的自信,就一定能获得成功。

在人生的每一个领域,信心都有着无法估量的价值。只要方法得当,就能培养足够的信心,帮助我们开启成功之门。

attribute ['tribju:t] n. 属性;特征;品质;定语

Politeness is an attribute of a gentleman.

彬彬有礼是绅士的本色。

absolutely ['鎎slu:tli] adv. 绝对地;完全地;独立地;确实地

I'm absolutely starving.

我饿极了。

arena ['ri:n] n. 竞技场

The Roman arena was very famous.

罗马竞技场是很出名的。

semblance ['semblns] n. 类似;外表;伪装;外观

She put on a semblance of anger.

她装出生气的样子。

在人生的每一个领域,信心都有着无法估量的价值。

充分的自信会产生好的结果,有充分的自信,就一定能获得成功。

Suppose, for example, you got into your car intending to meet a friend at an unfamiliar location.

for example:比方说;例如;举例;举例来说

You get turned around on the way there and get lost.

turn around:转身;转向;改观;回转

极富感染力的思考

Positive Thinking Is Contagious

朱莉·约翰斯顿 / Julie Johnston

A law that I live by every day of my life is the fact that attitude is everything. No matter what situation you find yourself in, your attitude can make all the difference.

When I was born, the doctors noticed something different about me. My limbs were shorter than average, and they determined that I was a dwarf. A few months later, the doctors shocked my parents with the devastating news that I was also severely visually impaired.

I am now 15 years old and I stand 2′9″. I have learned over the years that you can overcome any obstacle with three things: help from God the Father, determination, and a positive attitude.

Through the years, I have been told that I would never be able to do certain things. In almost every case, I have proven this wrong. All it took was a positive attitude and determination. A person has to search for ways to overcome obstacles in life. For example, if I want a drink of water and I cannot reach the water dispenser in the refrigerator, I simply ask myself, "Julie, what can you do to get a drink of water independently?" Then, I come to the conclusion that I need to get a stepstool.

There are a lot of people in this world who have minor obstacles in their lives, and instead of looking for ways to climb over them, they simply feel sorry for themselves their whole lives.

Having a positive attitude can also help change daily moods we get ourselves into. If a person is in a negative mood, he or she just needs to turn it around and determine not to feel bad any longer. Pretty soon he or she starts thinking positively instead. This method also works with other people. If you notice someone is in a bad mood, be positive and upbeat around that person, instead of letting that person influence you to begin thinking negatively.

Positive thinking and attitudes are contagious. Last year, I had a wonderful ninth grade English teacher, who was very upbeat and enthusiastic. We were beginning to learn how to diagram sentences. The first day we started diagramming she made the entire class stand up and repeat the phrase:"Diagramming is fun!" until we looked enthusiastic enough to satisfy her. She explained that if you say something a lot, you start to believe it' s true. Every day when it was time to diagram, my teacher would stand up in front of the class with an enormous smile on her face, and she appeared to be having the best time of her life. Her attitude took something most kids see as boring and pointless and made it fun and exciting.

Soon I will undergo four major surgeries. I don' t know what the future holds for me but I know I will keep a positive attitude to help me get through it. A positive attitude makes all the difference!

“态度决定一切”是我每天都要遵守的生活法则。不管你处于什么样的环境,不同的态度会产生不同的结果。

我刚出生时,医生就发现我有些与众不同,我的四肢相对于正常人来说要短,他们便说我是个侏儒。几个月过去了,医生传达的又一个坏消息震惊了我的父母:我的视力有严重缺陷。

现在,我15岁了,站起来的身高是2英尺9英寸。时间告诉我,你可以用这三种东西来克服一切困难:上帝的帮助、决心,以及积极的态度。

过去的这几年中,我曾听人们说我将会一事无成。几乎每一次,我都证明了这种说法是错误的。只要拥有积极的态度和决心,一个人总能找到解决困难的方法。比如说,我想喝水,但够不着冰箱里的饮水机,我就问自己:“朱莉,你想喝水应该怎么办呢?”随后,我得出一个结论:我需要拿个梯凳。

这个世界有许多人,生活中出现了一些小小的挫折,不去寻找克服困难的方法,而是为他们的人生扼腕叹息。

拥有一种积极的态度,能帮我们变换每一天的心情。假如一个人情绪消极,他就需要调节一下,让自己不再郁闷,很快地,取而代之的则是积极的思考。这种方法同样适用于其他人,假如你注意到有人心情不好,不要让那个人的情绪影响到你,要积极乐观。

积极地进行思考以及积极的态度是有感染力的。我九年级的英语老师非常好,她是一个极其乐观又很热情的人。那时候,我们正在学习怎样图解句子。开始学习的第一天,她就让全体同学站起来,重复着这句话:“图解很有意思!”直至我们的热情达到她的要求。她解释道,假如你反复地说同一件事,你就会相信它是真的。每天,一到图解句子的时间,我的老师就会面带微笑地站在全班同学面前,仿佛这是她一生中最美好的时光。她的态度使大多数孩子把枯燥单调的东西变得刺激而有趣。

再过一段时间,我就要经历四次大的手术。我不知道将来会如何,可是我知道我会保持积极的态度让自己跨越难关。因为积极的态度会使结果完全不同。

只要我们自己不倒下,就没人能够把我们打倒。态度决定一切,积极面对就会有好结果,不要轻言放弃。

devastating ['devsteiti] adj. 破坏性的;灾难性的;全然的

The area is subject to devastating seasonal winds.

这个地区常遭到破坏性季风的袭击。

refrigerator [ri'fridreit] n. 冰箱

A refrigerator was then a luxury.

那时候,冰箱是种奢侈品。

negatively ['negtivli] adv. 否定地(负地);消极地

If other people react negatively, that's their problem.

如果别人反应很消极,那是他们的问题。

contagious [kn'teids] adj. 传染性的;会蔓延的;会传播的

Chicken Pox is a highly contagious disease.

水痘是一种高传染性疾病。

“态度决定一切”是我每天都要遵守的生活法则。不管你处于什么样的环境,不同的态度会产生不同的结果。

只要拥有积极的态度和决心,一个人总能找到解决困难的方法。

拥有一种积极的态度,能帮我们变换每一天的心情。